at what point does being nice become mean

at what point does  being nice become mean?
where  is the line where friendliness  turns you into a liar?

when does  it stop being nice for him to  talk to that girl?
its sweet because he talks to her when  she feels alone,
but she has fallen  for him because he makes her feel special, but he has never thought about returning the feelings.
will this hurt her more than it helps?

when does talking to the lonely become  a project instead of  a nice thing to do?
are  you doing it so  they feel better or so that you will forget what  you  did last night because talking to the "less fortunate" is   a way to  show penance to God?

when does the flirting  become unacceptable?
(oh , its  just her personality)
well her personality is ripping that boys heart out and he has no idea that he is bleeding out all over the floor because his star crossed eyes are unable to see that he is in a room with all the other hopeless boys just like him drawn in  by her big  brown eyes and seemingly undivided attention.

its never okay to intentionally hurt  people,  i'm the biggest believer that everyone has been put in positions to  bless other lives and that we must surely take those  opportunities. and  i live by the  Thomas Knott  Gregson quote:

be gentle,

always delicate with every soul you meet,

for every single morning you  wake up,

there is someone,

wishing, 

silently,

and secretly,

that they had not.



but i'm watching "nice" people destroy countless lives  and for  some reason none of them have   bothered to glance behind them and see the bodies they've left behind that are far more broken than before they knew them.